Someone on there asked if writers are "hard to love". The person brought up putting emotions into words, but also seemed to imply writers just "put out there" whatever their emotions are. I could write a book on some of the misconceptions I've run into (but I won't here). I don't even know if I may have not entirely interpreted the particular question completely corrected.
In any case, I thought I'd post my answer here since I don't have much else to post on here right now.
I think people need to be very careful about automatically assuming that the person who writes, even stuff that has "some emotional element" to it, doesn't have some major, major, boundaries with regard to how much of his own emotional stuff, IF ANY, he'll share.
While "writer types" may tend most often to be quiet, introspective, types until they start writing, I think people have to realize that people who lean toward being "very tuned in to" "human"/"people"/emotional areas can be SO tuned in that they can fairly skillfully create the impression of not keeping any emotional secrets and/or of just "putting it all out there" when, in fact, they may well be keeping to them-self a "universe-worth" of their own "emotional stuff"/thoughts.
Of course, there are people who unload big, out-of-control, "emotion" in what is clearly similarly out-of-control writing or "pouring one's heart out". I, personally, am not one of those people. I'll write "emotional stuff" only once I've processed it to the point where I'm only calling upon an "old mental file" for a frame-of-reference and whatever it has little/no "emotional factor" associated with it beyond its just being a memory (good or bad).
In other words, I think unless someone's writing is full maniacal rantings that are clearly someone's need to wildly vent, or else nothing but morose wallowing in self-pity without regard for dignity; I don't think people should automatically think that a writer is going to put out there more than he/she would say in person anyway.
Writing is nothing more than a way of communicating well. People need to stop thinking there's "something weird about it". People who have good "human/relationships" skills are also often very comfortable with writing. It's a mistake to assume that person who has had enough of a life, and enough meaningful relationships, to have some "old mental files" as a frame-of-reference or resource does not filter what he shares. To the (extreme) contrary, I think.